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This month my son turned 4 years old and it went smoothly. We usually hold a party because he happens to share the same birthday with her aunt, my youngest sister either on our place or down her aunt’s who used to live just below us. But now my sister had move out and I was busy preparing for my school exam so I though it will just be quiet and simple just the three of us my husband, me and the birthday boy.

I just bought 50 different fruits for the kindergarten for 30 adults and children and the teachers thanked me because it was healthy and keep the young ones calm unlike the usual ice cream and cakes that the parents brought when somebody celebrates birthday at the kindergarten.The day started smoothly upon seeing his name and the flag besides it he knows it his day lucky he was the only celebrant that day. The boy was so happy with the attention where they sang a lot of birthday song and received a little book and a monkey, a noisy monkey.

At home we continue the celebration by buying an ice cream cake so he can blow 4 candles and gave him a garbage truck which he loves.

my son on his 4 yr. old birthday

It seems like yesterday that he was so dependent of me but now he has his own mine and he can beat me to some games in the computer, yes he has his own laptop to and he knows how to use it but he’s only limited to games like on Disney and other preschool  programs on the web.

Now let me see his development based on the Great School Org

Milestones: 4-Year-Olds

A. Motor Development: Gross Motor Skills:

* running is more controlled; can start, stop, and turn
* turns somersaults; hops on one foot; gallops
* can easily catch, throw, and bounce a ball
*can brush teeth, comb hair, wash, and dress with little assistance

He can all everything except the dentist suggest that adult should brush his teeth until he old enough to brush his teeth properly.

B. Motor Development: Fine Motor Skills

* copies crosses and squares
* prints some letters
* uses table utensils skillfully
* cuts on a line

He was once good in using table utensils when he was 2.5 years old but since he started in the kindergarten he is a little backwards he don’t like using knife and fork maybe because he left-handed so kind of confusing.We will see to it that he should use the table utensils more often.

Language and Thinking Development

* uses a 1,500-word vocabulary; speaks in relatively complex sentences (“Mommy opened the door and the dog ran out.”)
* understands words that relate one idea to another — if, why, when
* continues to learn through experience and the senses
* understands, mostly, the difference between fantasy and reality
* understands number and space concepts — more, less, bigger, in, under, behind
* thinks literally; starting to develop logical thinking
* begins to grasp that pictures and symbols can represent real objects
* starts to recognize patterns among objects — round things, soft things, animals
* grasps the concepts of past, present, and future but does not understand the duration of time

In this area he’s advanced than most children in his age because by 1 1/2 years old he knows all the colors, he can count, can tell the difference between big and little and can even sing several nursery rhymes. By 2 years old he can recite and read the Danish alphabet and numbers up to 50, can recognized patterns and forms.names of animals and his vocabulary was really amazing. So when started in the kindergarten at 2 & 7 months he was actually like a 4 yr old except the last one; grasp of the concepts of time. Now that he’s 4 he can memorize telephone numbers and some common words he often reads  and master the remote control which even I sometimes forgets. He can say the days and the tomorrow and the future and when I say you only have 10 minutes he will say no 100 minutes. Amazing

Social and Emotional Development

* takes turns, shares, and cooperates
* expresses anger verbally rather than physically
* can feel jealousy
* may sometimes lie to protect herself, but understands the concept of lying
* enjoys pretending and has a vivid imagination

Socially compared to his peers he’s just needs more help because he can sometimes too dominating like he knows everything although he plays with other children but the concept of playing like fighting he’s still a baby he don’t like it. But I’ve seen him in the parlor games and he acts normal and enjoyed being playing with other kids outside his circles.

According to the About.com

As the parent of a 4-year-old, you should:

* Encourage and provide the necessary space for physical activity
* Instruct the child on how to participate in, and follow the rules of sporting activities
* Encourage play and sharing with other children
* Encourage creative play
* Teach children to do small chores, such as setting the table
* Read together
* Monitor both the time and content of television viewing (preferably less than 1.5 hours of TV, no more than 3 hours maximum)
* Expose the child to different stimuli by visiting local areas of interest

We are guilty of letting him watch too much TV sometimes more than 3 hours when he’s home and now his computer which sometime he spends 2 hours. Although he watches program and play games for his age it’s not good for eyes so we  should limit it max 3 hours for both TV and computer. He already helping me set the table and small errands and he loves it. We love going out to the park but we should encourage or invite friends for overnight to encourage him to learn to share his toys and share his territory.

He can talk like a TV journalist and very observant and one time he asked me while ” Why the girls sits when they use the toilet while the boys just stands” and lot of questions and when I don’t know the answer I say “because it does,” that’s what he always answer whenever I ask him something although it more funny in Danish.

I will congratulate my self as a mother and as a parent as I together with my husband is able to meet the challenges of raising a super active boy without any problem considering he is our first and hope not the last.

And nobody is prouder when he always say “Jeg elsker dig Mor og Du er det bedste i hele verden” I love you and you are the best in the whole world.

And we love you also. You are the best thing that ever happen to us.

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My concern for the environment is the one that made me start to blog in 2007 so I will repost my very first post as my blog contribution to the Earth Day 2009 .

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Hi this is my very first posting on this blog and I stumble on a movement called Blog Action Day which is today where the focus is about the environment that’s give a good idea to talk about.

As a new mom, 5 year housewife, a student who lives in Copenhagen I will write some things that might be environmentally friendly tips . It is surprising to note that simple things in our daily life contributes a lot to the preservation of our environment. As a parent I feel it’s our duty to be environmentally conscious just think of our children’s future. I want my son to see and live not just reading in a book or some archives in a internet site about animals, beautiful nature what was left of our natural environment.

Filipinamom’s Simple Guide to help save our environment

1. Bring you own shopping bag- When going to to the supermarkets bring your reusable bags and don’t buy plastic bags. Plastic shopping bags is not free in Denmark it will cost you around 2.5 to 3.5 danish kroner approximately 0.5 US$ . But most people don’t care they just buy because it’s nothing but they forget that why the state put a very high tax on these plastic bags so that it will reduce the environmental destructions by lesser productions means lesser garbage. One very good example is my husband he said that he can use it later as a garbage bag but what very expensive garbage bag. Once I counted some of the plastic bags he kept in one of the kitchen drawers it was 150 pcs. just by 2 kr it will be around 50 US$ and that was only less than 2 months collections. Today I always put 1 or 2 bags in his cycling bag so he can use next time he shop (he does the shopping).

2. Take the Public Transport, form a car pool or much better cycle to work. I know this will not apply to most places but in Denmark where they have at least a reliable and good public transportation system yet cycling is still popular it is one of the very few cycling capitals in the world.

3. Throw the garbage in the right container. In Copenhagen where I live all housing complex are required to have separate containers for papers, cartons, ordinary garbage, bottles and batteries. The dangerous materials like paints and other chemical should be thrown out in special containers and same as the electronic and used furnitures where they have to be collected separately or throw them at a designated areas.

4. Ask friends or relatives for used baby clothes and accessories – I was lucky to surrounded by friends who gave us used baby things like baby carriage, strollers, baby books, crib, clothes, cloth diapers (yes it’s still very widely used here in Denmark but just different purposes than it’s named suggests.), shoes (they advises not to use other’s shoes but I think it will not hurt if it is for 1-2 years where they don’t walk that much), toys and etc. Just limit yourself to buy things that the baby really needs or just a few nice clothes. I know it’s hard I myself is guilty because I buy some clothes and shoes but later regret it because they grow so fast.

5. Don’t use wet napkins. It was a very good advise form my nurse because most of the wet napkins(wet ones) whatever they claim that is allergy friendly they still put some chemicals that will not be good for baby’s sensitive skin. I’m using a disposable rubber napkin and the old fashion soap and water when I’m changing diaper and a small towel (washable) to clean his face and body. My sister use to cut these rubber napkins in two so it will be cheaper. One good tip is to wet with a little soap some of the rubber napkins (disposable napkins and put it in a napkin and your ready to go .

6. Use an old fashion Baby cloth diaper – Like i said this is a very wonderful accessory it is very seldom used as a diaper in this age. I used for wiping baby mouth and butt (separate cloth of course), sunscreen (I tied it around the baby carriage to protect the baby form uv ray and wind especially when they are sleeping, baby’s bib, one of my mother group used to put the pacifier in it so it will not lost or to balance it i guess and there still a lot.

7. Turn off the electronic appliances on stand by mode- even if they are in stand by they still use electricity.7

8. Don’t buy books borrow them- If you can wait it’s better to borrow books in the library where you can borrow for minimum of 1 month and maximum of 3 months or borrow from friends. Since I live in Denmark I buy products which has the Swan ecolabel mark (this a nordic or scandivanian eco labeling ) and the Flower (european eco labeling). to be

9. Don’t subscribe to a lot of magazines or newspapers - I subscribe to a magazine for new parents but I found out later that there’s a lot of resources in the net about parenting topics, borrow books in the library or ask some friends if they have some magazines and books.

10. Cook your own food- By cooking your own food and the baby’s, it’s both cost saving and healthy and you also help conserve the environment just imagine the all plastic or the pizza carton or the bottles.

11. Buy those products that doesn’t pollutes- When I became a parent I try to read labels of the things I’m buying if they using suspected chemicals that will provoke allergies like perfume etc., in Denmark there 2 standards eco label that is the Swan (Nordic or Scandinavian) and the the Flower (EU eco label) so I’m sure that I’m buying a product which doesn’t hurt the environment.

12. Don’t use fabric softener- these products has more chemicals to damage the environment and to add it has allergy provoking chemicals even if they claim that is for sensitive. If you cant help use this use it moderately. I know a lot of Filipinos who loves use more than what is specified because it will smells good. This also applies to dish washing liquids us ethe right amount usually 5 ml to 5 liters of water is enough.

13. Don’t use shampoo and bath gel- 2 in 1 shampoo and bath usually marketed for the babies but these will harm the environment. A baby from birth doesn’t really need soap and shampoo because they still the in born fats which was away if use soap which will results to dry skin then later will become child eczema.

14. Breastfeed – It’s healthy and cheap and instant. Just imagine the tins or cartoon packaging you have to throw when you buy mother’s milk replacement.

15. Don’t use air freshener- It’s very expensive, bad for our health and pollute the environment.

16. Don’t use plastic in heating foods in the microwave- use ceramics or glass.

17. Don’t buy soft drinks bottles or cans without deposits. We have a return bottle or soft drink cans system in Denmark where you return them in a machine in a supermarket and claim your deposit back so you don’t need to throw bottles or cans out. When I arrive in 2002 there are still no soft drinks in cans most are in glass bottles or plastics but after the tins arrived you can see the thrash everywhere too bad.

OK folks that’s all I can thinks of now. I need to do my home work. Almost all I mentioned above is my own and based on the pamphlets and information from the health department i got when I was pregnant which I found out to be very useful.

This is a very good topic I wish the organizer will set another date for this issue so I can thinks of other things. I’m studying to a constructing architect so I guess now we focus more on sustainable products to us in the building we’re designing so in a way I can also contribute when I finish my studies.

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logo_waadToday is the World Autism Awareness Day and I have to post about it. But what is really is autism? Here are some myths and facts that I found in the www.austisme.dk non danish can use google translate I think it very informative

Myth – Autism is a sickness

Autism is not a disease but a development disorder. It is a complicated condition that can be caused by different development of the brain or other biological factors.

Myth-Autism is cause by parental rejection and bad parenting.

Autism has nothing to do with upbringing or how parents treat their children.

Myth – People with autism have no feelings.

People with autism have feelings, but find it hard to express because of their condition.

Myth – People with autism have no imagination.

People with autism can easily create fantasy but it hard for them to imagine things they haven’t tried before.

One of my friend has a child who is autistic and my brother’s nephew has ADHD which is short for the Attentive Deficiency Hyperactivity Disorder which is a different diagnosis form autism although they have similarities. So I know the hardships they went through. But fortunately in Denmark there schools for special children because they can not learn from a regular environment they cannot concentrate and they need teachers with special education to teach children with learning disabilities. Early diagnosis is a good way to help children so they can be help or they are talking about that the state is spending a lot of money in special tutor to students who might be autistic or ADHD because you can see physically if they are autistic or not if you are not aware what is autistic behavior are. Read more aboutautism and ADHD inthi svery informative site http://www.retrainthebrain.com/autism.html

When I learned that I am pregnant I became conscious of everything I eat and put on my body fearing that I will harm my child. I still have the fears since when at 8 moths he was screened or undergone test by a special child care nurse if he has some early signs of autism of any disabilities. That test to check if a child can concentrate by showing if I can remember it right 2 ball and just move it if the child will eventually grab it and it took my son a little while. Later on the nurse said she was afraid that he will not grab it. But that doesn’t end he also went with some difficulty with biting, hitting and only do parallel play meaning he do what others are doing but don’t want to join them. But this time I’m so happy that he is on the right track in his social skills. He is actually advanced child which explains that he should always needs challenges he can actually rad the alphabet and nos. 1-50 at the age of 2.5.

People should be aware that children or people with autism are also human they have feelings and not totally handicapped but they should be understand and not be outcast. Stop looking blaming the parents or the mother that they did something wrong but who knows how the brain works. I was once hurt when I heard people which some of them are close friends of mine commenting about my son that he is different that he is so aggressive that he should be in a special school which means for autistic or gifted children. I appreciate their cincern but they should not outcast my son because of one incident. I can not just imagine how the parents of autistic children experience.

Let us join the autism awareness day and it should not be today and everyday we should support parents and treat people with autism with respect and understanding.

This is dedicated to Earth

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Happy Birthday Magnus & Cristina

Today the 13th is a special day my son’s 3rd and my sister’s 30th birthday. I wish both of them a Happy Happy Birthday. I love you. The photo above was taken last year because we will celebrate it this Saturday.

Happy birthday to motherhood. I also congratulate myself for being a mother because in my opinion it is the most challenging yet the most fulfilling part of my life right now. I once managed almost 100 men without any problem but having a little man is like managing a 100 man bundled in just one little package called Magnus. He is so energetic and full of questions. He is always up to something.

He came to this world big time 55cm long and 4.1 kg

3 years ago he came to our life big time! 55cm long and 4.1 kg

Now he's like this!!

Now he's like this!!

At 3 he can read the Danish alfabeth just give him any words he can spell it. He started to read when he was 2 1/2 year old and he can also count 1-55 and read the numbers 1-20 when he was 2 years old. I thought that he just memorize it but ask him any number then he will say it even count backwards ok just the first 20. But now he can say it in Spanish, Filipino and English. I don’t know if it is normal in his age but comparing him to others in his kindergarten he is smart. I don’t force him but he loves reading I introduced books ever since he was a baby then He was so fascinated with colors when he was 1 1/2 years old that he can recognize all the colors . So the car became the blue car then big blue car.

Well this is supposed to be mommy blog so just bear with me. It is so fascinating to see how he progress and hear the amazement in his eyes when discover something new. His laughter and hugs and kisses vanishes all my problems and be grateful for each day.

Thank you Lord for all your blessings and continue to shower us with good health and give me strength physically and mentally to guide my son and tackle day to day challenges.

Once more to my son and sister. Happy Birthday and I LOVE YOU .

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I just read in Urban a few days ago about how desperate the Chinese parents in trying to find alternative solutions in the wake of the tainted milk scandal. Some are thinking about hiring a cow or call the agency that organizes mother who are willing to breastfeed because they parents won’t dare to buy powdered milk anymore. Some mother who ares still breastfeeding can earn as much as 270 US $ per month. I have some chinese classmates that there a lot of announcement in the internet regarding this.

But it’s not only in china that one can sell mothers milk but also here in Denmark you can sell it to the hospital and they pay 176 Danish kroner or around 18 US$ per liter. Most hospitals accepts this kind arrangement because they need give to the premature babies since it has been proven that mother’s milk gives more immunity against long lists of sickness.

There was a story published in a news paper BT (Berlingske Tidende) last March 7, 2008 that there is a 53 year old woman, Sisser Weinreich, mother of 7 children who became richer by 460,000 DKK around 120,000 US$ just by selling her extra mother’s milk whenever she’s breastfeeding her children.

All in all she supplied the hospitals 3,408 liter because she was blessed with 10 times extra than normally what a mother can produce. She said that she started to sell her milk when she give birth to her second child upon the suggestion of her midwife.

The funny thing is the tax office was in doubt if the mother’smilk should be taxed because of it’s unsual quantity imagine she can produce 4.2 liter just 3 months after she gave birth. But mother’s milk is tax free so it was blessing financially for her and the premature babies.

Her 2 children continued her legacy because they inherited her extra power.

Mothers who chose to breastfeed should observe the following tips:

  1. Avoid alcohol because the baby also will be affected since it goes with the milk.
  2. Find a good position that is both convenient for both mother and baby.

3. Invest in a nursing pillow it can help you to find the right position and it will be a great relief not to hold your 5-6 kg baby for a long time. You can sit and relax your muscle and avoid back and neck pain. The baby can use it too.

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4. Remember to let your baby finish one breast before changing to the next one. It is because the first flow is to quench the thirst so it is low fat but the last is the rich in protein which is what the baby needs. It will also helps you against breast infections because when it’s full of milk it blocks the milk ducts then comes sore and later on fever.

5. Eat healthy food and drink a lot of milk ( I tried drinking a lot but my son stomach became bad so I need to drink something to nutralize mine and my son’s stomach , potato juice was a great help

6. Rest a good night sleep is also important well sometimes we can’t so we need our partner/husband help to alternate us when we the “milking cow” has to rest or recharge

7. Invest in a electric nursing pump if you think you more than adequate milk production and store it properly. There are some milk containers or plastic that you can buy and put it in refrigerator in 3 days and 3-4 months in the freezer. I will post a more thorough guidelines for this topic.

8. Use a nursing pads to avoid embarrassing moments when I use a woolen one it was good.

9. Avoid smoking its not good for you and the baby.

10. Don´t set no particular time to nurse when the baby is hungry . Always feed your baby on demand. This will stimulate your milk production.

11. Use a good supporting bra that will support your breast to help it form sagging.

12. When the baby is done never pull your breast to break the suction but use your little finger inside his mouth and carefully pull it.

Well that tips is according to experience although I used 2 sizes over my normal size I wasn’t able to sell my milk maybe because my son was so dependent on it until he was almost 2 years old. Until now he trying to trick me to nurse him but I waned when he turned 2.

I was lucky because it is normal and actually encourae here for mothers to nurse their baby. Actually they will not let you go home from the hospital when you are not ready or breastfeeding isn’t working or there you can ask help form your nurse about it.

So it was financially rewarding I wasnt tied to buy milk which might be contaminated (well not here in Denmark) and my son is healthy since he rarely sick but when he does he can recover almost instantly.

How about you can you sell your mothers milk also?

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The scandal of contaminated milk that killed 4 babies in china makes me angry and it terrifies me seeing the news on with all those babies lying on the hospital fighting for their lives. How can they do that terrible thing to babies.

According to the news in the TV there are at least 6,000 affected and more parents still flocks the hospital to have their children checked for contamiantion. There are 1,300 babies that are still in the hospital and 168 have kidney problems. They have found traces chemical specifically of melamine which is being used in plastic kitchen utensils like cups and saucer, glues, laminates in furnitures and many things. There are some who says that they used melamine to increased the protein contain in the milk so they can passed the strict requirement.

The milk in question is Sanlu is produced by China’s biggest dairy producer but the world largest dairy producer from New Zealand, Fonterra the world’s biggest dairy trader who owns 43 % of Sanlu said in their press release that they already known about it since august. But how come that it just now that we heard about it according to the different newspaper it was due to China’s policy on covering news. I just hope the Chinese government can find the root of the problem and put to jail those who are responsible.

I don’t know but I just really disgusted with this news. I also at some point gave my son breast milk supplement although I breastfeed for at least two years because I thought that he wasn’t getting enough milk from me but I’m glad that he himself preferred breast milk.

In the Philippines most mothers use infants formula because of many claims form the producers of higher IQ, speedy growth, and many others because they put a lot of vitamins and minerals. But Just as what they always label their products that “Breastfeeding is the best for babies” which is true. But of course there’s a lot of reasons why they can breastfeed like getting back to work. But I think it’s most of it is lack of information from the health department which should give guidelines to all pregnant women and parents about child care. Because even mothers from poor sectors in the country uses infant even it so expensive formulas because of lack of guidance from health workers but it’s what they see in the commercials.

I hope that the Philippines authority will act and bans importation of suspected dairy products from china and warns the public about the dangers of this milk as other countries have done. This not only confines to powder milk but all dairy products like yogurt, cheese, butter and ice cream.It should be a wake up call for the health authorities to sit down and think about infant care and information dissemination and don’t let the big Pharmaceutical companies do it just to promote their products but rather use them to give the right information about infant or child’s health. And to the dairy producer or the big pharmaceutical companies I hope that they will be RESPONSIBLE and reminded that they are dealing with human beings not guinea pigs and not just think about big profits.

How about you what do you think about this news/scandal?

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My son today cycle all the way to the day care around 300m. We crossed some streets and two stoplights. It went smooth but of course I have to be very fast. We bought a 2 wheeled without support bicycle for him because the 3 wheeled bicycle was too easy for him. It will improve his balancing ability which will prepare him when he will use the real cycle when he turns 4 or 5 years old. It will also train him to use the brake and the important thing

This is actually good choice because it is too light only 3.1 kilos so when I can carry it anytime when he’s tired or carry it home in the 4th floor. There is also a pedal kit that you can install when he’s older enough to use the pedal but unfortunately the dealer don’t have any stocks. It took me while to choose between two different German made bicycle which is around 1200 DKK (@220 US$) but this one I chose was cheaper only 600 DKK but it looks more like small version bicycle and I like the color.

He’s very proud of it and every time he meet somebody he just say “See my new bike I love my bike”.

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Update on my earlier post about my son’s biting habits. We met with the personnel on the day care for the second time 4 months after the first meeting because they were very worried about my son’s biting other children. He wants to play but he don’t know how to respect other children borders. They gave us a month to observe him and suggested that we seek help and find a child psychologist to help him because they think he’s socially way behind. This keeps me worried and look back what I have done wrong but according to his doctor he will outgrow it he’s totally normal he said.

One month passed we did not heard from the day care because he was sick for 3 weeks so it was forgotten or maybe he just changed his habits. He also learned to push and hit that but I think slowly he learned how to behave with other children. But still I watch him carefully whenever he’s in the playground because he might push other children when he don’t get what he wants.

Two months had passed I can see that he’s playing fine with his cousin but now it’s the other way around my son always tells me “Mother He bites me”. Now he’s on the other side he’s now getting bite marks as often from his cousin same as he given him before.

It’s the same reasons why my nephew bites because he can not express what he wants. But the problem is my sister can not speak danish so she speaks to him in Filipino and English and of course danish. Last Friday their pedagog spoke to us because they don’t know what to do with our children because my son was bitten by the cousin and they also hit each other once in a while. Note that they are in the same team or room in the day care.

Are we filipinamoms are different in upbringing our children? But some wiser parents told us that it’s normal because they are like pseudo twins and we are live right next to each other. There is sometimes jealousy and fighting to their way for our attention.n At home of course it happens sometimes but they easily forgot the episode say I’m sorry and hug each other and everything will be fine. It’s funny though that my son can say you should not bite other children, you should not hit other children, you should not push other children and so forth when his cousin did something.

The pedagog said that they going crazy with our children they even think of separating them but of course it will can’t be. I think they just have energy than most danish children. I have a classmate who studed something about genetics said that a product of two races inherit the strong character from both sides. I don’t know if that’s true but our boys are surely energetic but they also sweet as angels.

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I just read an article today from Søndagavisen, a free weekly newspaper about this Helicopter parents. It is funny word but I think this is a special danish word for parents who control or steers their children life. This  article is about the increasing numbers of parents who keeps calling the universities or other educational institutions regarding their children’s university’s applications. Note that July 5 is the last day of sending nationwide college application.

Many parents takes care of almost all of their children problems like just like this sending the application on time while their children are in Roskilde festival or traveling.  The authorities in the some universities are busier than ever answering queries and complaints from than from applicants.

They also said that this phenomenon’s is widely known known in the USA where parents form a union,  I think it is College of Parents America.  Some of the experts they interview were quite alarm by this parents controlling their children’s affair.  They said that children will become so dependent of their parents and children will totally be crushed when their parents gone, since they will not live forever.

If they only how is it in the Philippines. It so natural for the Filipino parents  to decide their children’s course in the  future.  Some wanted their children to be in the same profession as the parents for example doctors, lawyers, engineers, etc. but some also dreams that their children will be someone in the future. Most parent are so protective that they even deliver and fetch them in school even they are already in college.

Here in Denmark where children moves out when they turn 18 and decide to study. They have to find and pay their own apartment and just  live with their SU, the state’s stipend.  They have to work part time if their expenses can not be suppoted by their stipend.

But back in the Philippines parents shoulder everything form tuition fees to board and lodging and allowances.  That is why children just have to concentrate studying.

But I think I will be a part time Helicopter parent because I’m a Filipina mom.  I want the best for my son and I will always guide him continue studying but I will not dictate him what I want him to be but what he wanted to be.  I will see to it that he will go to college because here in Denmark only  half from the high school graduates  go to college.  Most of them don’t know what course to take, some don’t get accepted,  some don’t have place in the college so they work after that they take a detour forgot about college.  Of course it’s doesn’t make then lesser person because here everybody is equal whoever you are garbage man or member of the parliament has same rights and privileges in their social welfare.  But they have free education and stipend which I think is a privilege just imagine in the Philippines we have to pay everything.

How about you are you gonna be a Helicopter Parent?


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My bike

My son is already 2 1/2 year old but I still have the same weight after I give birth. It’s been a off and on affair with the weigh scale. I lost 10 kilos while I worked for a few months but when I went back to school as so my 10 kilos.

A month ago I decided to bike to school but how about my son that I have to deliver to the daycare. We just bought child seat. We chose to buy this model from Bo Bike from Holland, it’s expensive but reliable. It’s fast and I feel fresh and energized whenever I arrive in school. Then I have at least 50 us $ extra per month and don’t need to go fitness center. In this time of high oil prices it will be a big help both financially and for the environment.

At first my son was afraid but two days after he’s already so ecstatic riding with me. I also noticed that he became matured when we ‘re going out, he takes his cycle helmet and go direct to my bicycle and wait for me. Before he runs straight to the playground or and doesn’t want to sit on his stroller. Maybe he feels thats he’s already became one of the big boys when he’s able to ride the bicycle. Another plus, we can just go anywhere except that he won’t fall asleep, then its hard to balance while his head is hanging sideways or in my back. Another disadvantage is I can’t shop while his with me unlike using the stroller theres a shopping net underneath. Or maybe it is good for me to control my shopping or buying sprees.

I read somewhere I think last year fromTv2 about a research with most obese women in Europe that Denmark lies No.3 among the least obese. This is due to the bicycle culture and the healthy eating habits of the danish women.

Heres a link to the UNECE.ORG STATISTICAL DATA ABOUT OBESITY

This statistics form UNECE includes men and women and Sweden which just 30minutes away from here are the least obese women in Europe. While USA and Uk are in the bottom.

Holland and Denmark are the biggest cycling nations in the world wherein the infrasture system includes the bicycle lanes. Maybe because these two countries are almost flat which is makes cycling nice and easy. In this country there a still a lot of old people in their 80’s still using the bicycle. I hope I can still manage to do it when I turn 80.

My first bicycle I was a mountain bike with 24 gears until I was 7months pregnant but my husband bought me a lower geared old lady bike the one in the pictured above and used it until 3 days before I gave birth. I miss my mountain bike which drives faster but this present one is much easier to use. And I love my bicycle and so is my son.

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